5 lessons I've learned from a major setback

by Kevin Bascao - 12:00 PM

Hey, guys! It's been a while. I'm not really busy but I didn't have much drive to start writing a new article. Then there's this contemplating on what subject I am going to write about next. I felt this pressure within me because I know for a fact that I am not as brilliant as a legit writer. I feel like I need to write for my readers, like write something people would be interested in. But you know, I also feel the need to express what I feel by putting my thoughts into words. And that's exactly what I will do here.

Anyway, as some of you know, I went through hard times recently. I've been hard on myself as I was trying to figure things out even if nothing really made sense.

In my case, it was difficult finding answers to my questions. I was in search of somewhat real sense of happiness. You know what? I never really found it. I guess it's safer to say that happiness, rather, found me. It took me a huge amount of faith, though. I knew I just had to keep moving forward no matter what.
While I was away from the keyboard for two months, here are the things I've learned so far:

1. Money alone will not make you happy

When you have little or no money, you see the most important things in life. Practically speaking, being rich is a form of accomplishment. But it doesn't always mean that you are truly happy. Inner peace, passion and happiness starts from within. Money is never a pre-requisite of these things.

If you find money as something equivalent to happiness, you better save a lot of money because you'll never know how much you need to acquire to be truly happy. 

It's a form of blessing but it's not everything. Life is more than that. Worship the real source of blessings. Not the blessing itself. 

2. Passion > Money

I've been in a situation where I had to choose between the two. I learned that I never really focused on discovering what my real passion is. I have always been concerned about paying my bills and stuff like that. At first, it feels just fine. But in the long run, it will make you exhausted. You are doing things just because of the pay it gives you.  Don't get me wrong, we all need money. What I'm saying is, if you have an option to pursue something you love and earn money (even just enough money) by doing so, go for it. It feels good to do something out of passion. It makes you human because you feel a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment.

I also remember someone once told me this: "Money is never a good source of motivation".

3. Losing in life is sometimes necessary. It's called "Redirection".

Remember this: An arrow has to be pulled back in order to launch forward.

All setbacks are painful to experience. The moment you are on it, nothing will make sense because all you feel is pain. But eventually, you will be surprised where it will lead you. You might be in a completely different path but who knows, it could be the best one for you.

You know it's the right one if you prayed for it. If it makes you excited, if your heart is in the right place and your motives are generally good. It could be worth giving a shot!

4. Being at the lowest will give you a fresh new perspective

When I was at my lowest, I realized how much I was taking everything for granted. Apparently, it's also during that time when I learned to see the real value of having genuine people in my life whom I also took for granted. 

I thought taking something away from me will blind me, figuratively. I was wrong. God took away something that made me blind in the longest time.

Now I see better. I see more. I think I now have this great sense of value for everything in life. And that's because I've been through some bad times.

5. Suddenly, everything feels right.

It makes total sense to know how to be able to go up just because you fell same way down. You just know when it's time to bounce back. You stand up stronger and wiser. I'm telling you, this is the most beautiful thing after a meltdown.

The very thing that stressed the hell out of you has become a memory and a sign of maturity. When you look back and think about it, you can't help but just smile. That's one reassuring moment for anyone to have.

It's not about how many times you've been down as long as you keep on standing up each time you fall. Just keep moving forward!

True enough, every setback is a set-up for a comeback. And every comeback is an opportunity to make things right and better. 

You got this. 

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